Attending school provides opportunities for children to learn and develop new relationships. Your adopted children may be entering a new school when they come to live with you. This can cause extreme anxiety in any child. Simultaneously adjusting to a new family, a new home, and a new school can be overwhelming.
As an adoptive parent, you are responsible for advocating for your child’s education. Below are a few tips on making the educational system work for your child’s needs.
Establish a Positive Relationship with the Teacher
If possible, meet with the teacher before the child starts school to help them better accommodate and understand the child. Explain the challenges the child has faced, as well as any behavioral or safety concerns the teacher can help with. You also can offer a few strategies to help the child in the classroom.
Ask the teacher for a list of school projects ahead of time to see if any are family-sensitive. Classwork asking students to discuss their family backgrounds (such as creating family trees or bringing in baby pictures) can be especially difficult for adopted kids. In a light and age-appropriate way, discuss the projects with the child and brainstorm creative ways to complete them. Getting ahead of the projects and working together on them may make them less upsetting.
Practice Answering Peer Questions
If it is widely known that the child has been adopted, classmates may have questions, which can make the child self-conscious. Think of possible questions and discuss answers that are comfortable for the child. This can give them more confidence and help prevent them from being caught off guard.
Individualized Education Plans (IEPs)
The U.S. public education system is required to accommodate all children, no matter their needs. Schools are required to provide Individualized Education Plans (IEPs) to any child who meets federal requirements. IEPs create goals and strategies to help each child succeed at school. If you believe your child needs special services for their education, you can ask the school for an evaluation. The school must respond to all requests within specified timeframes. A team of experts will conduct the evaluation. If they determine that the child has exceptional educational needs, they will develop an IEP. Once the plan is in place, teachers and parents must monitor the child’s performance. IEPs are reviewed annually.
- A Guide to Parent Rights in Special Education from the Ohio Department of Education
- School & Adoption: Navigating IEPs, IDEA, and Special Services from the North American Council on Adoptable Children
- How to Advocate for Your Foster Child in the Public School System from Adoption.com